One of my favorite sayings from Yoda (the great Star Wars philosopher) is:
Recently I heard a story that brought that home even more. In this case, the man was asked by his teacher to try to pick up a pencil. He reached over and picked up the pencil. The teacher said, “NO! You PICKED up the pencil. Don’t do it…TRY to do it.”
The man thought a bit and then went through a gigantic, overexaggerated motion of “trying” to pick up the pencil. It was dramatic and overdone, and completely ineffective. To demonstrate “try”, he had to fail.
I guess Yoda was right – there is no try. There is only do or do not.
This is a philosophy in my life. I don’t commit to trying to do something. I commit to doing something. Do I always succeed? Sadly, no. There are times I can’t make my commitment. In that case, I tell people by the time I said I would do whatever that I can’t make my deadline and this is the new deadline, or the change that needs to happen.
To be honest, I think that’s one of the reasons that I’ve had so many loyal clients for so many years. I know for me, if I go to an advisor and they tell me they’ll do something by a certain date and then they don’t do it, I’m disappointed and wonder if I can trust them to do anything. If I’m not careful, I end up getting into a co-dependent kind of micro-managing. It’s so much easier to only work with people who do what they say they will do. If they can’t do it, they don’t promise it. And if they say they will, and for some reason can’t honor the commitment, they let me know as soon as possible. Those are the people I want to work with!